COUNSELLOR BASED IN ST LEONARDS, HASTINGS AND KINGS CROSS, LONDON PROVIDING HOLISTIC COUNSELLING FOR TRAUMA, ANXIETY, IDENTITY
How can counselling help?
Life is complicated and we live in anxious times with little space to de-stress and take stock of the world around us and our sense of place and belonging within it. The distractions arising from digital media, particularly social media fragment our attention and focus from what is important in life and can intensify anxiety and feelings of overwhelm. Counselling can help you to reflect on and re-examine what is important in your life and where you may have got stuck in habits that no longer work for you. A listening space is an increasingly rare opportunity for self-reflection in a hectic world.
Our experiences in the past inform how we behave and live in the present, what coping strategies we employ, and these can become less useful over time, holding us back from being all we are capable of becoming.
Counselling can offer a way of working through difficulties with relationships, mental health, work or personal growth and it can also be a way of breaking a sense of loneliness and isolation. I can offer a non-judgemental and objective space in which all of you is valued and accepted. How we work will be collaborative and I will encourage you to bring your own ideas about what works best on your journey in therapy.
Counselling aims to provide people with a safe and confidential space where they can explore difficulties and concerns, as well as desires and aspirations, with a qualified professional. It can often be easier to talk openly with someone outside of friends, colleagues and family because a more objective alliance can be formed between client and counsellor. We can determine together what areas you wish to focus on, or allow the work to evolve naturally. I work in a holistic way that respects your individual as well as community and intergenerational heritage and experience.
In person or online
Counselling can also be done online instead of or in addition to face to face sessions. This can be a more flexible way of having therapy if you are unable to travel, maybe live with a disability, are living in an isolated location or work outside of usual hours. I work primarily with problems arising from trauma, which can be as a result of early attachment issues, abuse, medical interventions or loss, though there are endless ways in which trauma embeds its way into a life. I also work with issues to do with gender, identity and oppression and the depressive states arising from negative experiences, and much of my work is from within the LGBTIQ+ Community.
I practice as a counsellor in Kings Cross, central London providing face to face counselling, mainly on Mondays and Fridays and the rest of the time I am based in St Leonard's on Sea, East Sussex. From here I offer a mixture of face to face and online counselling using VSee and FaceTime primarily.
Beginning counselling can be challenging and a brave step to take, but it can also be really rewarding, and requires a commitment of time, money and the willingness to participate as fully as possible in order to get the best out of this experience, but developing awareness of self and the impact we have on others and others on us can be profoundly life changing. Being able to challenge ourselves and our views on life can fundamentally alter our mental and physical wellbeing.
The manifestation of oppressive experience is often either anxiety and/or depression.
Anxiety is twice as likely to affect women than men, whilst men are much more likely to commit suicide. Often people do not feel able to ask for help and seek counselling but it can offer a lifeline when things feel desperate. I use an eclectic approach, which includes exploring the lifespan over time, imaginal work that can strengthen neural pathways and different ways of developing personal empowerment, which can help with anxiety and depression and can be a safe and contained way to work on these problems.
I have been a practising counsellor in St Leonards on Sea and in Kings Cross, Central London for the past seven years. I am committed to providing counselling in a safe, confidential, non-judgemental and anti-oppressive environment. I work from the belief that making change is possible and that it is sometimes simply about gaining a deeper awareness of self and others and being open to considering different perspectives on the possibly rigid views we have learned to internalise from significant others.